She gave birth to a son in spite of all social expectations. She became a single mother and, with her kid at her side, fought obstacles head-on. Despite having Down syndrome, none of them lets it stop them from living. Her son is now 27 years old…

Regarding the topic of having children, the majority of us can empathize with the experience of being on the receiving end of the comments and inquiries of other individuals.

In today’s culture, there is a pervasive and unspoken expectation that you should have a successful career, find a significant other, get married, and have a family. Because of this, partners who choose not to have children are often required to provide an explanation for their choice to other people. As a result of their lack of comprehension, those who are unable to comprehend such a choice may be rather awkward and ask personal questions that are in no way related to them.

Frequently, these inquiries may be quite intimate and distressing, and they have the potential to make the receiver feel uneasy, particularly when they are questioned the reason why they have decided not to become a parent.

It is unfortunate that not having children may be regarded the ultimate form of egoism; but, when couples who are thought to be “different” wish to have children together, the perception of what constitutes egoism shifts a lot more swiftly…

Patti White, who was from California, received some news that, at the same time, made her delighted and apprehensive. This occurred more than twenty years ago. It was revealed by her daughter Lisa that she was expecting a child.

There are varied degrees of physical and mental impairments that are associated with Down syndrome, which is a congenital and chromosomal condition. Lisa has developed Down syndrome. However, what a lot of people seem to forget is that a significant number of individuals who have Down syndrome are capable of taking care of themselves, going to work, and leading independent lives.

On the other hand, the probability of a couple with Down syndrome having a kid is lower than the likelihood of other couples having a child. This is due to the fact that it is very uncommon for a man with Down syndrome to be the father of a child.

 

 

Patti White was taken aback when she learned that her daughter Lisa had made the choice to retain the child, despite the fact that she was quite startled by the news that a grandchild was on the way.

When Lisa was 29 years old, she was living in her own apartment and working full-time at the Goodwill charity shop in her community. It had been eleven years since she had moved out on her own.

In addition to being able to handle everything except the cash register, she was able to get along with everyone. According to what Patti said to Voice in 2016, “She liked it there, and they liked her.”

Lisa had also begun a romantic connection with a guy who had Down syndrome; but, as they lived in different homes, they were unable to be together. Although Patti was aware that her daughter was in a healthy adult relationship, the two of them still spoke about topics such as birth control and safe sexual practices.

According to Patti, “at the time, all of the books said that males with Down syndrome were sterile, and people told us not to worry about it because individuals with Down syndrome were unable to become pregnant.”

However, destiny had other things in store for us.

Patti was listening to the message that was waiting for her on her voice mail as she had just returned from her lunch break at work. Afterwards, she received a message from Lisa, who was ecstatic:

Hello, mom! This is just a quick message to let you know that you are going to become a grandmother! “My mind went in all different directions,” Patti explains. Why is this even possible? The boyfriend of hers has a problem!

The choice that Lisa made to have the kid was condemned by others who were not a part of the situation as being reckless and selfish. Additionally, her capacity to be a decent mother was called into doubt. However, her family was very supportive and made sure that their daughter was safe.

Lisa, a person who is vocal and passionate, went through a pregnancy that was similar to many others in a number of respects. In addition to attending delivery courses and working with a pregnancy coach, she had all of the standard symptoms.

“Because I was working five days a week when I was pregnant, it was difficult for me to move about around the house. In addition to not feeling well, I was experiencing morning sickness. “I had the sensation that I was going to throw up,” Lisa confessed to Voice.

Her pregnancy, on the other hand, was regarded as high risk and received the same treatment. Nic, Lisa’s kid, as well as his parents, was born four weeks prematurely and was diagnosed with Down syndrome.

The new parents made an effort to live under the same roof around the time that Nic was born, and Nic’s father was there during the birth of his son. Nevertheless, things did not go as to plan. Sadly, Nic’s father went away when Nic was just five years old.

Nic, who is now 24 years old and a lovely young man, was brought up by his mother and grandmother, both of whom are really proud of him that he has reached this point in his life.

It is always a risk for everyone involved to have children, but Lisa felt especially susceptible since many people had ideas about her choice to become a mother. Many people had thoughts about her decision to become a mother.

The situation escalated to the point that Lisa lost contact with a few of her friends. This was due to the fact that the parents of Lisa’s friends were concerned that Lisa would encourage their girls to want children as well.

However, in the end, none of these perspectives are taken into consideration, and this is particularly true for Nic, who has continued to flourish; he is a college graduate who has a great deal of regard for the ladies who have reared him. His current self is a direct result of their influence.

My mother is my mother. My mother, Lisa, is the most important future I have in my life. The statement was made by him in accordance with Fabiosa. “She is always wonderful and she is beautiful,” he added. “She gave me life and she gave me love and she gave me birth.”

During the year 2016, Patti posted a lovely update on Facebook, accompanied by a photo of a proud mother and a joyful son:

I am proud to show you my daughter, Lisa, having a good time with her son, Nic. Down syndrome is present in both of them. This year marks a significant milestone for each and every one of us. She will turn 50 and he will turn 20. Me, I am older than dirt. So proud of us. Our goal when she became pregnant was for her to know him and have a relationship with him. There were many ups to their “Downs”, after all these years we can honestly say they have overcome the odds and share tremendous love for each other and their small little family unit. ( she is a single mom)”, Patti wrote.

This mother and son team has spent decades making sure they show the world the value of people with Down syndrome. Patti’s, Lisa’s and Nic’s story also provides important information and hopefully it can help other make their own decisions.

They are an inspiration and deserve our respect and admiration. Please share if you agree.